You may have heard the words ‘elopement’ or ‘micro-wedding’ bandied about and wondered what in the Sam Hill people are going on about.

And don’t worry if you’re a tad confused, because it turns out that different people, both in and out of the wedding industry, have different ideas about what constitutes each- so if you are planning one or the other, it’s a great idea to be clear with your vendors about what their definitions are so that you are all on the same page! So here I go with my definitions:

Elopements and Micro-Weddings: What’s the Difference?

 

Let’s start with an Urban Dictionary twist:

• Elopement (noun): When two people say, “Let’s get hitched” and peace out to get married in secret, with no drama, no extended guest lists, and just enough witnesses to make it legal.
• Micro-Wedding (noun): A mini version of a big wedding, where the couple keeps it intimate with a small group of loved ones (but maybe just big enough for Uncle Bob to insist on a chair).

My Definitions 

Elopement: Just the Two of You (+ Legal Witnesses)

Think of an elopement as pure simplicity and intimacy. It’s about two people deciding to get married with no distractions, no fuss, and no guests (apart from two witnesses who are legally required to be there—your barista and Uber driver qualify if needed!)

Here’s how I describe it:

• Guest List: Two witnesses, and that’s it. No guests. No exceptions.
• The Vibe: Romantic, adventurous, private. Whether it’s on a windswept beach or under an ancient fig tree, it’s all about you.
• Why It’s Special: There’s something magical about slipping away to get married without anyone else knowing until after the fact. It’s a moment entirely yours to cherish.

(Fun note: Historically, elopements were for people running away from disapproving in-laws. These days, it’s just about running toward love without all the extras.)

Micro-Wedding: The Wedding Diet- Small But Still Sweet

 

A micro-wedding is perfect for couples who want to keep things small and meaningful. It’s not about all the extras—it’s about celebrating your love with your closest circle, in a way that’s relaxed, personal, and easy to manage.

How I define a Micro-Wedding

 

• Guest List: Up to 20 guests maximum. This small size ensures the ceremony stays intimate and simple.
• The Vibe: Low-key, heartfelt, and free from unnecessary fuss.
• What It Doesn’t Include:
  • No PA System Needed: With a small group, everyone can hear clearly without microphones or amplification.
  • Minimal Styling: Think a natural, beautiful location, maybe a couple of chairs for elderly guests, and the ceremony itself as the main focus.
  • No Big Production: There’s no need for elaborate seating plans, styling, or formal music setups—it’s all about keeping it simple.

Examples to Paint the Picture

 

• Elopement Couple:
  Sarah and Sue sneak away to Byron Bay. They bring two friends as witnesses, exchange vows on the beach, and spend the rest of the day drinking champagne barefoot in the sand. No stress, no extras—just them.
• Micro-Wedding Couple:
  Emily and Tom invite 15 of their closest family and friends to a secluded spot in the Hinterland. There’s no seating for the ceremony, just people standing in a semi circle to emphasise the intimacy of the occasion. They have a beautiful romantic entry song and a fun, upbeat song for the end which they are playing via Spotify through a portable Bluetooth speaker.  They are all off to a nice lunch at a local restaurant afterwards. It’s intimate and elegant but still feels like a wedding.

How to Choose Between an Elopement and a Micro-Wedding

 

Ask yourself:

• Do you want to celebrate privately or share the moment? If it’s just for you, elope. If you want your closest loved ones there, go micro.
• Are you dreaming of a ceremony with just a small, close circle of loved ones? If yes, micro-wedding it is.
• Do you want something truly minimalist? Elopements are as simple as it gets—no guests, no frills, just love.

For the Couples Who Can’t Decide

Remember: It’s your day, and you can define it however you want! I’m here to help make your elopement or micro-wedding as seamless, stress-free, and personal as possible, whatever you decide.

To discuss your ideas and options get in touch with me here!

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